Are you tired of losing the girl to
that loudmouthed jerk?
The mouthy, loud, in-your-face guy?
Have you lost your chance to meet the girl of your dreams
because some loudmouthed, ignorant, overbearing guy stepped across
your path?
If you want to discover the reason why that jerk, idiot,
blowhard, braggart... that 'other guy' ... got the girl when you
didn't, you're at the right website.
If you want to learn why you're ignored, you're able to only
be her 'friend' ... or you're just stuck standing in the shadows
... you've found the right website that'll give you the advice
you need to start dating the women you want to date.
Let me tell you a story:
I get a lot of questions from guys who say things like:
"I don't want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women..."
"I'm a 'nice guy' and I want women to like me for me..."
...and...
"I don't understand why I'm losing out..."
I'd like to explain what the 'jerks'
have over you.
I used to be the nice guy of all the nice guys. As a matter of
fact, when I decided that I needed to be more aggressive and go
after the women that interested me, I actually created an
obstacle for chances of succeeding.
Let me tell you why:
I believed that "being a nice guy" must be the way to success
with dating women and I actually couldn't think of any other way
for me to behave around women!
In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was
attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either
she must be screwed up in the head, or that guy is probably nice
to her when other guys aren't around.
As you probably know, it's hard to convince a person to believe
something when they already have have decided a certain way
about it. The person that you're trying to convince just uses
whatever you say to convince themselves that they're actually
right... and you're wrong. And that works against you and you
feel worse for it.
Well, I was that way too.
No matter how many guys I saw acting 'badly' and having lots of
women around them, I still somehow believed that being a "nice
guy", buying women gifts, taking them out and paying all the
time, and generally letting them be in control of the
relationship was the way to make myself attractive to them.
Well, after being the way I was and still missing getting the
girls I wanted to, I realized something that incredibly changed
my life.
I realized that all those jerks, those idiot guys that I hated,
that they do, in fact, attract hot women I was always interested
in.
Behaving arrogantly and with selfish behavior, as weird as this
might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you because you
seem to believe in yourself... you have confidence in what you
say and do.
Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get, and all kinds of
other jerk-style "illogical" things really do work when it comes
to attracting women.
But then I had that little voice in my
head telling me that I wasn't doing right...
I love the idea of being successful with women, but I dislike
the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and
misleading, etc.
Deep down, I want to be a good guy. I want to be liked by
everyone, especially the girls I meet.
I decided that there must be a way to make this work, and to
attract women without being abusive.
The good news is that I found how to ease my conscience and
still meet a lot more women that I have been the old, my old
self, usual way..
But it requires that you put aside your current ideas for just
long enough to entertain some new ones if you want me to
explain.
First, let me say that I believe I've found a way to take the
things that those jerks do to attract women and use them without
being abusive. When you learn to do this, you can really have
the best of everything you want to be around women...
You can be nice to women on your own terms, and give them what
they really want, and the type of guy that makes them interested
in you, that really attracts them.
So why do women become attracted to
jerks?
The short answer is that they don't want to be attracted to that
type of guy it, it's something that just happens.
A woman's attraction to a guy isn't a
(guy-type) logical
choice!
It's an emotional response to the things that happen around
them. Women are emotional creatures.
Women don't choose to feel the emotion called attraction for
jerks any more than you choose to feel the emotion called
attraction for young, beautiful, toned women.
Nature has pre-programmed guys with a mechanism that works like
this:
See beautiful women ---> Feel attracted to the hot women
Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think that the
female version is harder to define. But it is more of an
"emotion" and a "pull" towards someone that makes them feel
safe, secure, wanted. And these things are stirred inside a
woman's psyche when, and only when, the man knows how to
interpret her actions, reactions and body language.
Yes, women do feel attraction for handsome men... but they feel
a much stronger pull towards certain personality traits and ways
that the guy behaves than they do for a guy's physical looks.
So again, the short answer is that it's just something that
"happens" inside of a women. She doesn't "choose" it.
So what is it about the "jerk" that creates this powerful,
overwhelming power of attraction inside of women?
Let me answer first by telling you what it's not:
It's not the bad treatment (not usually). I don't believe that
women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the
"jerk personality". A guy that really means to beat on a woman
isn't looking to date, he's about a whole different thing.
I think that jerks also happen to also possess several qualities
that are attractively powerful that that they literally make
women accept the abuse...
Women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because
they are so attracted to these other qualities of the guy they
are with.
Here's my starting list of what creates that 'jerk' guy
attraction:
-Unpredictability
-Uncontrollable
-Challenge
-Dominance
Of course, there are many more aspects to the behavior, but this
will get us started for this article. The qualities I've listed
above, when a guy knows when to display them correctly, triggers
the natural "attraction mechanism" inside of women.
Jerks have taken natural qualities that are attractive to women
a little "too far". Just over the line of what the 'nice guy'
would cross.
So what does this mean to you?
Well, the most important thing is that it means you can still be
a nice guy and attract the women you want to attract at the same
time.
You're probably going to have to learn how to flirt in a
different way, become a little more confident being a challenge
to women, etc.
But with the results you'll get, you'll find that this will get
you what you want, and still allow you to treat women well...
all on your own terms without having to be her 'friend' and get
pass all that nicey-nice wussy stuff you've been doing so
unsuccessfully so far.
It also means that instead of being the guy who women talk to
about their relationship issues, and how their mean jerky
boyfriend is being mean to them again... you can be the guy who
they're dating and sleeping with!
Yes!
I want you to think about how you can cultivate the four
qualities of the 'jerk' that I've mentioned above into your
personality.
See if you can be a little less predictable. Act with
spontaneity.
Don't let outside events or women control you. Always have a
plan of how you want the date, the meeting, to happen.
Be more of a challenge. Don't give in to her every whim and
suggestion.
Stop being submissive and such a wussy... and get in touch with
that side of you that is more dominant (I said "dominant", not
"domineering").
Now, I'm not going to tell you that what you just read will
change your life all at once...
But it's a start!
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Talk to you soon,
David D.
www.doubleyourdating.com/
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